“Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as possible to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With this agreement, you can completely change your life. – Miguel Ruiz “Death is not the greatest fear we have. Our biggest fear is to take the risk of being alive, the risk of being alive and expressing who we really are. Miguel Ruiz Here are some other types of self-contracts that you can use: an automatic contract is a kind of commitment in which you write down what you want to accomplish and how you can accomplish it. Often, all the rewards for concluding the contract as well as all the penalties for breaking the contract are also clearly highlighted. If you want to achieve your personal goals and be productive day after day, I suggest you create a self-contract contract so that you focus on your goals. If you don`t trust yourself enough, have someone else sign the contract. The co-signer may be a close friend, mentor or respected co-worker. Ideally, this person should be someone who is looking for you so that they will keep you online if necessary. I know what you`re thinking, “Well, I don`t think a contract with myself is going to work for me.” Well, a contract, even the one you make with yourself, is a powerful motivator. As the book explains, our best personal performance will fluctuate day by day, but as long as we make efforts and try to do what we can to create opportunities and improve our situation.
Take it yourself and do your best! Our word means so much more than what we recognize. Just as important is what we say and how our actions conform to what we say. If you say you`re going to do something, follow you. You will feel better and have more respect for others. Or maybe you`re not able to express yourself completely because you assume that other people wouldn`t understand or react negatively. I think this deal is the most precious thing in my life. I also often say that my coaching client has this agreement. As long as we do our best, that`s all we can do.
Let go of the assumptions! The only way to test a hypothesis is to do or say what you want. You can use a website like Stickk or Beeminder to hold you to account by putting real money on the line or putting your reputation on the line (the app can actually post your mistakes online so everyone can see them). Our brain wants us to be consistent, so that our actions often correspond to our thoughts. This means that the signing of the contract changes our view of an agreement. It is no longer just a document with certain rules, it is now something that you have physically agreed to.